It Take Guts

b9f8e911ab8a10fed1b90bce5fb6c496Yesterday I was at my children’s school for their assembly. Before they introduced the elected Student Representative Council (SRC) members for 2016 the principal congratulated all who nominated. He congratulated all the students that had put their names forward. It takes guts to put yourself out their.

It does take guts, it does take courage. People nominate themselves for representative roles for the most part to make a positive difference in the community. When people nominate for election they are opening up themselves to the community. They are saying that I want to make a difference and then it is up to the community to support them or not.

In the end most nominees do not get elected in elections, however they should be congratulated for their efforts in making a difference. Their nomination has ensured that democracy works. So remember that in a democracy people that put themselves forward for election have guts, have courage and are wanting to make a positive difference.

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

Being Grateful

925dcff5afdaaaad949f377aff61cbd7One of the consistent themes I hear about being happy is gratitude. Being grateful will help you to be happier and positive. The more you focus on what you are grateful for the bigger the smile will be on your face. I do not know why this works, I just know that it does. By being thankful and grateful helps me to realise how good life is.

I have seen people that have a sour look on their face. Have you seen these people? Do they have many friends? Is it a positive environment? I am guessing it is not the sort of environment that is uplifting and has you excited about living. I know at times I have been the person with a sour look on my face…. But we can change.

In order to be uplifted, positive and happy be a grateful person. Join me and lead with gratitude. Thank the people you work with, thank God for the great life that you have (yes you do) and thank your boss the next time you get feedback, good or bad. May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

Is something getting you down?

Lake TuggeranongToday the blog post is late due to me having a cold and being a little slower today. I was lucky that today schedule is empty up until this afternoon. However I feel like crap. Can you relate? In your case it may not be a cold or sickness, but that someone at work is getting you down. It could be a family situation getting you down.

Either way, if you are feeling down that is normal. Do not add to the issue by beating yourself up. Give yourself time to go through the issue getting you down. Find yourself a support team to get you back up to your normal self. Through giving yourself time and a support team you will get back to your normal self in time.

So whenever you feel down, and if you do not now the time will come when you do, remember to have faith. Faith in you. Faith that things will get better. Allow yourself time. Find that support team and you will get back on top. May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

One thing this Week

The beautiful evening sky before the stormWe have a week left in November…. 2015 is coming to a close. But we still have time to work towards our dreams and passions. Yes take a break over Christmas to celebrate the year and plan the year ahead, yet there is time to still put things in motion. Forget about the big task ahead. What is one thing that you can do this week?

What is the one thing that will move you in the direction of your dreams and passions? Focus on that one thing and do that. Do not worry about everything else. Sometimes we get so caught up and overwhelmed by the big task ahead that we do nothing. And I have discovered that doing nothing does not help either.

Last week I was putting off a task in writing up a bunch of leadership fact sheets. There was a bunch that I needed and then there was a bunch that I wanted to also do. Overall the task to complete them all was a large one. So I keep delaying the task, until finally last night I told myself to just get in and do the ones I needed, not the ones that I wanted. In no time I finished them.

Sometimes you just need to start and focus on one little task. It may lead to momentum for the overall task, but focus on the task at hand. So, What is the one thing that you are going to do this week? May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

How to Stay Positive

Trappers Bakery GoulburnI have been asked by a number of people about how I stay positive. Some people who read my blog have told me that I am always positive in my blog posts. Though I agree that my blogs are mostly very positive and that I aim to live my life in a positive way there are times that I am not very positive.

As with everyone else in the world I have my problems, challenges and issues. This is a normal part of living. So being positive is not because of a lack of problems, challenges and issues. Being positive is not about ignoring problems. The first stage of being positive is to acknowledge the problems, challenges and issues. Just do not get stuck there.

There are many things in the world that are outside our personal control. This can be an area of frustration for myself when I really care about that thing. What I have learnt to do is apply the influence I can to that area of concern and then let it go. If I can not progress it further, then I am learning to let go of the issues and not let it get me down.

So am I always positive? As mentioned above the simple answer is no. There are times that I have pity parties and there are times that I just want to complain. This is normal. Make time to get down on yourself. Give yourself time to deal with things. When you do, make sure that you do this privately or in the company of your support team that are going to help you get back on top.

I have heard many times that gratitude is an uplifter. It is an uplifter for both the receiver and the giver. I thank God each day for the good life I have. If you have any doubts just look at all the bad news around the world. I live a good life and I am thankful. I acknowledge my thanks privately to myself and also thank people consistently for the good works they do too.

And finally, the reason that I am mostly positive is that I decide to be. I wake up and I am thankful for another day. I decide to have a good day. When something goes wrong, like smashing my phone this week, I decide to be positive. Yes I was upset initially, however I then told myself to snap out of it, there are worse things out there. Being positive is your decision.

In summary my hints and tips to staying positive are:

  • Acknowledge problems, challenges and issues
  • Let go of things outside your control
  • Give yourself time to deal with things
  • Be grateful
  • Decide to be positive

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

Have you let reality get in the way?

Attila Ovari at the Thredbo Resort

  • What did you want to be and do when you grow up?
  • What were your dreams and aspirations?
  • What made your heart sing?

Are these the things that you are doing now? Are you living your dream? I hope you are and if you are not why not? Is it that life hit you in the face? Have you let reality get in the way of your dreams? Many people live their lives thinking that they are restricted and constrained by things that do not really restrain them.

I am included in this group. I let fear and a lack of self confidence get in the way of my potential. I worry myself about the “what if’s”. What if I try and fail? What if I give it everything and fail? What will people think? What will my family think? What about the resources I wasted? What about the time and effort that I waste?

Do not live your life in quiet desperation. Do not let fear stop you. Remember that courage is the overcoming of fear, not the lack of fear. Back yourself and find a team that supports you. You can do it. You can live your dreams and passions. Remember that the world needs you too. The world needs to see the true you.

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

Finally I did it

Attila Ovari after a boxng sessionYesterday was the first day that I managed to do just about nothing since leaving full time employment over a month and a half ago. You may be asking “why did I want to do nothing?” Well I thought that I could take two to three months off to relax and think before jumping into my next adventure when I finished up.

However as my life is, there is no rest and relaxing. I have been too busy with developing business connections and socialising. I have never been good at doing nothing and just relaxing, so this should not be a surprise to me. So yesterday, just staying home, relaxing, walking the dog and doing a little bit of boxing was a nice change to my usual program.

It was good to just have a day for me. I did have to fight the temptation to do some work, but in the end I managed to relax and just spend time with me. If you are like me and like to always be on the go, I encourage you to spend some time with yourself. It is one way to re-energise and to ensure that you stay aligned on your passions and dreams.

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

Bummer…. I smashed it

586ec89fb9cd7e743adfe432b6e0a2e6 (1)The other day I smashed my phone. I dropped it. Not just did I smash the screen it will not turn on anymore… I truly stuffed it. So what would you do if you smashed your mobile phone? What impact would it have on you? So much of what I do is on my phone. With my emails, calendar, files, applications, etc in the cloud my access to all this is my phone.

Honestly the first thing I did was swear. I was not very happy. But within five minutes I stopped the negative thoughts, I stopped the blame and I stopped beating myself up. I flicked the switch to say to myself that it is all fixable and no one is hurt. Taking a deep breath I went onto doing something else.

Then after I was thinking straight I came back to the problem of the phone. In so many ways I have become reliant on the phone. It is not just my phone and communication device, it is also my calendar, notepad, my radio, my watch, my camera, my book, my GPS and my access to all my files.

In the end I realised that I can do without all these things for at least the next 24 hours. Let’s get real, these are tools for me, they are not my life. So 24 hours later I thought through some solutions for my problems. I have sent the phone off to see if it can be repaired, I have purchased a cheap phone for the meantime and life goes on.

I have impressed myself with the way I have approached this situation. I hope that in the future this is the way that handle issues:

  1. Get upset briefly.
  2. Did anyone get seriously hurt? No, then flick the switch to this is fixable and relax.
  3. When I have settled down come up with solutions.
  4. Implement the solution.

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

Find your Support Team

Girls at ScoutsSome people think they can do everything themselves. They think that their efforts alone will either get the job done or will push the team across the line. Are you one of those people that think it is all up to you and you can do everything? I know that I was one of those people. I did not need support, I just went out and did what needed to be done.

Well, I have learnt that we all need a support team. it does not matter who we are there are times in our lives that we need support. I have found that through having a support team things tend to run smoother from the start. Even if you do not think you need a support team it is better to get onboard anyway.

Support comes in many different ways. It could be technical support, it could be advice, it could be emotional support and the list goes on. As human we were designed to be social creatures. We are meant to work in teams and even the basis of our society is the family unit. If you are like me, you will need to learn to accept help and support, but it is worth it.

And remember that you will need support all all areas of your life…. Family, Work, Personal Development, Health. None of us have the skills to do everything and when things go wrong we will need a support team not just for the technical side of things, but also for emotional support. When we get kicked in the guts we need to have friends there to support us.

So as you go on your daily business of life. Look out for people that have a positive impact on your life and that would be great to have on your support team. Stay in touch with these people through regular contact. Encourage and support them as they encourage and support you. These people will develop into your support team, encouraging you to do better and supporting you when you are down.

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

Are you Evolving and Developing?

DSC_2088Yesterday I attended the launch of a friend’s, Lydia, re-branding of her business. Over the last few years she has built her business up and yesterday she changed the path of her business and re-branding was part of that change. Though successful in her business there are changes that she sees in the marketplace and Lydia is evolving her business to meet those changes.

We all live in a world that is changing. We all work in industries that are changing. We are going through a period of rapid change. Just look at the the massive improvement in the capability of the mobile phone in your pocket compared to 5 or 10 years ago. This is just one example of the changes in the world and the way it impacts our lives.

It takes courage to evolve and change. And at times we will get it wrong, however to not evolve and develop is the greatest mistake of all. Developing could be to connect ourselves into industry forums and conferences. Developing could be connecting with friends from outside our industry and looking at how change is impacting their industry. Evolving can come from further upskilling ourselves.

So if you are a person that finds it hard to deal with change I encourage you to take small steps. Firstly regularly look at the changes in your industry. Secondly look at the changes external to the industry. Thirdly, connect with others that are forward thinking both inside and outside your industry. And then finally, when you see changes and ways to evolve and develop take on the opportunity.

May this strategy lead you to greater understanding, solution seeking and in the end create opportunity for you. Change can be hard, however evolution is vital to remain competitive in today’s market…. May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

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