This weekend while heading up to the Southern Highlands, we stopped in for Dinner at Marulan at the Chinese Restaurant. After the yummy dinner we were offered fortune cookies…. I always look forward to the fortune cookies. The are sweet and yummy….Okay, they are not in accordance to my normal diet, but hey once in a while it is yummy.
In the cookie was my “fortune”….. It read “You will achieve greatness in your lifetime”. As I read it I had to laugh, by this time I was sitting in the car getting ready to finish the rest of the journey. The little laugh was because I believe this message to be true for all. Yes for all!!! I think it is ourselves that get in the way of our own greatness.
So what is greatness?
One definition is the quality of being great; eminence or distinction. To me this means that you can be great by focusing on your talents. We all have talents and passions in our life. For me it has been a journey to find these talents and passions over my lifetime… Now it is time to take these talents and passions to reality and greatness.
But, what holds us back?
I know for me some of the things that hold me back are:
- concerns about my reputation if I failure
- financial pressures in raising a family
- discomfort in taking a new direction
- doing good things rather than great things
But in reality the list above are all personal concerns that I can overcome. By following my talents and passions I too can achieve greatness in my lifetime….
- Are you going to achieve greatness in your lifetime?
- What is holding you back?
- What are your talents and passions?
- Are you always running around?
- Do you spend all your time with others?
- When is the last time you had time to think?
If you are like me you have packed more into your life than there is time to do it all. One of the things I find from packing in so much is that I often prioritise time for myself last. This means that I lack the time to learn, reflect and plan. This can frustrate me at times. I think that often in leadership roles we want to be there to serve our people and hence are there for our people. This combined with family and other responsibilities can often lead me to a point where I lack time to digest what is happening and where I am going.
- So what do you do to get time for yourself in your busy schedule?
I know I have a number of things that I do to get time for myself. These include:
- Blocking time in my schedule
- Going for a run
- Read from a book
- Try to get some planning work done before people arrive in the office
Today my son did his Tae Kwon Do grading to go from white belt to yellow belt. It was good to watch all the trainees as they were going for the next belt all the way up to black belt second dan. The master instructor was good with all the trainees and very fair. There was one topic of discussion that I did find very interesting…. He let all the white belts know that though they are nervous, so are those going for their black belt.
It was a good message to give. Being nervous is a normal reaction and not something that should concern us. Whenever we are going to be assessed, having a new experience or not in our comfort zone then being nervous is normal. So if being nervous is normal, how can we channel our nerves into a positive outcome?
- What have you been nervous about?
- In what ways do you channel or overcome your nerves?
I am sure that you have heard the saying “there is only 24 hours in a day and 7 days in a week.” Over the last few weeks I believe that I am challenging this…. How you say? There is only 7 days in a week…. Technically you are correct there is only 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week and 168 hours in a week. However between the projects I have been working on I am actually doing more than 7 days per week of paid work at the moment.
Can I hear you say “what about work-life balance?” Good question. I believe that work-life balance is not something that we achieve each and every day or week. There are times when we are chasing our passion and our dreams, which is going to require us to work harder some weeks over others. Is this a bad thing? I think not, but what do you think?
This morning as I prepared myself for the office I got thinking about flow. One definition of flow is “move steadily and continuously in a current or stream.” The flow I am referring to is that sense of everything heading in the one direction in your life. The question that I have been asking myself today is am I fighting the flow?
When we look at water, it heads from high points in the mountains down to the sea. Just as we do not imagine that water flows uphill, why is it that we expect to fight the flow in our lives? Yes, I agree that we control the destiny of our lives, so how does that work with the concept of flow? I think that martial arts holds the key to this question.
In martial arts when you block a punch, you are not necessarily stop the punch, but instead you deflect the punch. You use the opponent’s energy and flow to move towards your desired outcomes. So in fact you are using the flow and energy that exists and not fighting it. Going back to our water example, this can be seen in the way we have build dams and water infrastructure to use the flow to our advantage.
So, how does this impact on my life…. I am going to spend less time fighting the flow and more time using the flow to lead my life in my desired direction….
- Think back over the last week, are you fighting the flow or using the flow?
- What is one thing that you can do today to use the flow better?
- How can you take advantage of the flow in your life
Last week I attended my Children’s School for an awards ceremony. My son received a Community Award. Yes, I was very proud of him. He received the award for the way he happily helps out around the school. It was great to have the opportunity to be there as see him receive his award.
The Awards Ceremony was a celebration for the school of these students that had achieved during Semester 1. They recognised students excellent academic results, for doing a great effort in their students and also for being community minded around the school. In the Principal’s words every student has an opportunity to achieve an award.
There was great involvement from the student body in the ceremony, including the School Captains and the entertainment. I was very impressed with the themes throughout the ceremony. These themes included leadership, opportunity, service, excellence, community and professionalism. The awards were very much about expectations while also being understanding of each students needs.
Some thoughts I had during the Ceremony:
- Do I have high enough expectations for myself and others I deal with?
- Do I have a caring and understanding attitude towards others?
- Am I there to support others to meet the expectations?
Wednesday this week was a big day…. and I was fortunate enough to get an invite to the 2014 Woman of Spirit Awards hosted by Lifeline Canberra. I was invited through my friend Kylie Ofiu who was nominated for the Rising Women of Spirit Award and was a finalist. It was inspiring to hear all the stories that the woman had to share as part of their nomination.
The stories were one of overcoming a great challenge and in the process inspiring others.These stories were of overcoming health issues, domestic violence, mental health issues, disasters, accidents and family issues. And the stories brought a tear to my eye. It was amazing to hear about the challenges that these women faced yet they managed to get back up and inspire others.
It did get me thinking about how in Australia, we tend to be good at pulling together and overcoming adversity. In times of adversity we are known as a nation to pull together and work our way through the crisis. Wouldn’t it also be nice if we could pull together and achieve when there is not a crisis to overcome? Let these stories from the Woman of Spirit Awards inspire us all to great things…..
This week it was a great honour to be able to pin a school parliament badge on my youngest. At the school Assembly all the the elected students came up on stage and had a parent pin their student parliament badge on them. I was proud of her not so much because she got elected, but more so because she gave it a go.
She spent time to prepare her speech and after many delays got to pitch herself to her peers. What a great leadership experience to be involved with. I think it is great that the school provides this peer leadership opportunity to the students in their last two years of primary school.
In addition to the election process the school then has the elected parliamentarians fulfill different portfolios. These portfolios have practical application around the school in terms of the School Community and leadership of peers. My daughter got the Sustainability portfolio so she will be leading in the area of the garden that the school has.
Yesterday was a day of mixed emotions. I was attending the funeral of one of my former soldiers. It was a day of remembering the good times and also farewelling a friend. Back in my first command role I meet LCPL John “Rocky” Helliar. Back in those days I was living a few hours away and hence spent a fair amount of time at the barracks in Holsworthy. Rocky was in a similar position and hence spent a fair amount of time at the barracks also.
Back in the day we used to sit on the verandah after work and talk over a drink or two…. Talking about work, life and who knows what… Yesterday was a time to remember the good times. And also the good life that Rocky had led. He had three passions in life Family, Army and Rural Fire Service. After listening to the tributes yesterday, it became very clear to me that the Rocky I saw at army was the Rocky that everyone saw.
The stories from family members, the stories from friends, the stories from the Rural Fire Service and the stories from Army all said that Rocky was always there when you needed him. It did not matter whether it was saving Merimbula from fires or playing with the children in the extended family or serving with the Army supporting Aboriginal communities, Rocky was there. It was good to remember the Good Times.
Rest in Peace….