Need some Calm in your Life?

CalmHave you tried guided meditation? Or do you think it is all a bit airy fairy?

I must admit that I thought that that meditation was a bit airy fairy. However I keep hearing how good it was for the mind, body and soul. So, even though I was skeptical and not really sure what guided meditation was going to do for me, I gave it a go. Like most things that are good for me, I am a convert from skeptic to evangelist.

So what are the benefits? Well, I am the sort of person that has my mind travelling at a million miles an hour. It never stops. This impacts on concentration and sleep. My mind is always busy and active. This has in the past led to waking up in the morning more tired than going to bed. It also has meant it is sometimes hard to focus on the discussion in front of me as my mind is taking me on another adventure at the same time.

Though I am not using guided meditation daily, I am using it on a regular basis. I tried the Headspace App and it did not really gel for me and I tired the Calm App and it really lived up to it’s name. I find that after completing a guided meditation even for 2 or 5 minutes my head is clear, my mind is sharp and my body is relaxed.

Recently I have been involved with some meetings that were not the most pleasant to be in. Before these meetings I used the Calm App for a quick two minute guided meditation and before you know it, I was relaxed walking into the meeting and very sharp in the way my mind responded to issues raised in the meeting.

Another concern I had was whether I was able to sit still for 2, 5 or 10 minutes to do a guided mediation. Those that know me, know that sitting still is not something I do well. However there is something about a guided meditation that has me relaxed and able to sit there for the required time. In fact the guided meditation is over before I realise it most of the time.

Well, all I can say in summary is try guided meditation, give it a go. Find the way that works best for you. I know there is a lot more for me to discover about guided meditation and my journey has only just begun.


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Are you Brave?

b9f8e911ab8a10fed1b90bce5fb6c496Recently, with the life changes I have made some people have said I am brave. They have gone on to say that would be too fearful to make the decision I have made… They ask me if I am scared or have fear? It seems to some people to be brave is to be fearless, however I do not believe this to be the case. Brave is defined as “ready to face and endure danger or pain; showing courage”.

To me to be brave means to be scared, fearful and yet still move forward in the direction that you are meant to. If we are fearless, then we are going to do some pretty dumb things. Being fearful keeps us alive, but it should not hold us back. It is our internal risk management radar evaluating the actions we are about to take.

To this end we need to look at the opportunities ahead, mitigate the risks and move forward in the right direction. The direction towards our dreams. Yes, you will be scared and yes you will be fearful and yes there are risks. And yes at times we will fail, however the feeling of doing something will outweigh the regret of not trying.

  • Have you experienced fear in something?
  • Have you been scared to do something?
  • How you done it anyway?

If you answered “Yes” to the questions above then you are brave. It does not matter whether it was a success or failure. The act of doing something you were scared or fearful of means you are brave. And being brave once, means that you can be brave again….. What is the next thing that you are going to be brave with?


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The Power of Setting Goals

3606f54ae2e72390c193bba91e2c61f7I recently left an organisation that I was doing a couple of projects for. As I left I reflected on the goals I had set for myself. How did this role fit into the bigger plan for my life and also where I was in terms of other parts of my life. It struck me how though the exit was not the exact time I had planned it was in fact in accordance with the goals I had set myself.

Anyone that knows me, knows that I love leadership roles where I get to develop those that work with me. I love to combine leadership with operational type areas where external stakeholders and clients are impacted in positive ways. This combination gets me excited and enthused.

In terms of my life I have been in this type of role in my Army Reserve job. I have been blessed in this area to have been in sub-unit command for the last five years. The last financial year in particular it was awesome to be selected to be in this role for a major set of Exercises. However this role is coming to an end and I am off to new adventures in my Army Reserve career.

So in terms of the big picture the scene is set for my life to move, in my civilian job, from a back office role. However I need to think about how I want to do this… Do I want to start my own business and build the organisation and culture? Or do I want to take on a senior leadership role in an existing organisation? Decisions to be made. Over the weekend talking with my wife, it seems that my own business may be the best way forward.

However to do this requires resources. One needs to have the funds to support themselves, their families and their business as they build up a client base. To this end there is funds required to achieve this. However, I had set savings goals earlier in the year to ensure that I would have the funds to start my own business if that was my decision.

So in summary I had set a number of goals for myself before I was to move on from my role, in which I just left from:

  • Pay off all debts except the house
  • Develop a solid savings target
  • Finish projects in the role
  • Finish up my current Army Role

So how did I go. Debts paid off in the last financial year. Savings hit the target two weeks prior to finishing up. Projects are just about complete and I have only three months left in my current Army role and I am about to start preparing things for handover.

The key thing is that I had not even realised that I had achieved the goals I had set. I had just developed the habits to move in that direction and as decisions had to be made I following the path that headed in the direction of my goals. This is the power of goals.



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Is it Right or Wrong?

a1fbfd113fa9ebd97b0a744a5f77ad99Last night I watched the movie Sicario at the local movie theatre. I enjoyed the movie and was expecting a movie with a bit more action. That said it did get me thinking about what is right and wrong? One of the lead actors, a female FBI agent struggled with the methods that were used by an interagency task force to fight a Mexican Drug cartel.

When it comes to morals and ethics everyone has a different view of where the line is drawn between right and wrong.  This can be based on background, experience, training and culture. In the USA the FBI agent at the start of the movie came across a gruesome discovery in a raid. Also the raid lead to the death of two law engagement officers.

With this background the FBI agent was keen to make a positive impact in the war against the drug cartel. However to do this the team she was teamed up with challenged her definition of what was right and wrong. Though the methods were uncomfortable with her she did appreciate that they got results.

There is a saying that “the ends do not justify the means”. This is true, though when considering the means we need to consider our values, the law and the difference understandings between the different stakeholders. Is living by my values going to be able to gel with difference with the key stakeholders? If not this is going to cause personal challenge for you… What should you do in this situation? I do not know, only you can decide in this situation.


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Leadership is about Influence

1cdf27c8f43ec300fbe181bf86937860Many people view people that hold a senior role in an organisation or government as a leader. This is true in a sense and is often referred to as positional leadership. In positional leadership a person is delegated responsibility and authority based on their role in an organisation. Is positional leadership the only sort of leadership?

I do not think so…. I believe that we can all be leaders. We all have strengths, skills, passions, knowledge and experiences that if we shared with the world, the world would be a better place. We can provide leadership in these areas of strengths and expertise and make a difference in the lives of others.

I believe that leadership is more about influence than it is about authority. Yes with positional leadership there is authority attached to roles. This is an important part of leadership in an organisation. But imagine if you led through influence rather than authority. You do not need to hold a senior role to have people look to you for advice, guidance or direction.

You may have experienced times in your life when people come to you for help, advice and leadership even when you do not hold a senior role or position. This is because you have influence. Influence is developed through connection with others, living by a set of values and helping people to achieve their mission.

It is like what Zig Ziglar used to say “You can have everything you want, if you help enough other people get what they want.” So we can all develop our influential leadership through connecting and helping others. Even if you are in a senior position and have authority, I encourage you to operate with influential leadership. In my experience you will get the best from people when you treat them like a volunteer, even if they are a paid staff member.

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Last day at Communities@Work

commsatworkAs I wake up this morning it is a beautiful day. The sun is out, the birds are singing and the world seems so perfect. Today is a different day than normal. After just under three years at Communities@Work I will finish up for the last time this afternoon. It is almost surreal to know that I will not be heading to the office on Lake Tuggeranong next week and not because I am on leave, but because I no longer work there.

During my time at Communities@Work I have had four different roles, worked from multiple workstations and completed a number of projects for the organisation. As I reflect back though on my time in the organisation it is not the rollout of EasyEmployer timesheet management system, assisting the merger with another organisation, the multiple fundraisers I coordinated (Go Yellow Day & Community Sleepouts) or the implementation of the Quality Management System that is the highlight.

In the end it is about the people…. There are some really good people in the organisation that care about the outcomes they deliver for their clients and stakeholders. Even the ISO9001:2008 auditors commented about how much the people in the organisation care and want to deliver the best possible service. There is a culture of wanting to do the best and always seeking ways to improve.

Since my departure was announced on Wednesday, I have been really touched by the number of people that have wished me the best. The number of emails, personal farewells, cuppas and lunches has really touched me. As I move on to my next adventure I know that I have made some friends among the staff at Communities@Work. The friends I have made at Communities@Work has certainly been the highlight of my time there.

So what is next…. People have asked what is my next adventure. Well, the first step is to spend next week with my children that are on School Holidays. Then I have a little bit of work with the  Army to catch up on in the following week as I start my handover of my army role. Which just so happens that I am also transiting my army role at the end of the year. In the short term I will do some consulting, coaching and training which is something that I have been doing in my limited spare time.

However, in the longer term I will look at leadership opportunities where I can have a positive impact in the world. This may be in business, politics, another organisation or a combination of these options. Stay tuned for what adventure or adventures lay ahead. One thing you can be sure of is that I will blog about them.


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Three Months of Blogging

AttilaOvari BannerWell it is the first of October and I restarted my daily blogging at the beginning of July…. That makes it three months, over 90 days, that I have published a daily blog post. It has not even felt like a task, it has actually been enjoyable and something that I look forward to each day. That said my blogging may be a little selfish, as it is a little therapeutic for me to do.

I started my blogging adventure a few years ago when I was appointed as the Senior Manager on Social Media working group for the organisation that I worked for at the time. I felt that I needed to learn and experience social media and blogging if this was a role I was to do. This has led to an amazing adventure of blogging and using social media.

However the challenge I have with my blogging is that it initially lack a purpose or a target audience. I just seem to blog about whatever gets into my head at the time. I apologise if you read my blog posts and wonder at times what the hell I am blogging about. However in recent times I have found my focus. This focus has been around my passion for being passionate about life and empowering others through inspiration.

My blogging in recent times has been about living life with passion and how everyday things can be opportunities to explore adventure. In addition there are things in our lives that motivate us and inspire us to be better at what we do. I would like to think that we can focus in these areas and inspire each other to greatness.

I look forward to continuing my blog talking about life’s passion and inspirational thoughts. I hope that you too get a daily uplift from the blog posts. As I move forward into the future and get inspired by whatever life brings my way I will continue to share these inspirations thoughts. And most of all I wish you a life of passion, adventure and inspiration.

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Reformed Control Freak


  • Do you feel more at ease when you know the detail of what the team is doing?
  • Do you like to be in charge and feel at ease when you are directing the team?
  • Do you tell the team how to do something rather than what needs to be done?

I know that I can answer “Yes” to all of the above. If you answered “yes” to the above questions you may also be a control freak. I can recall in my days as a Lieutenant in the Army I would like to drive the vehicle, even if I had soldiers to do that. It was all because I like to have control. Yes, I was keen on a result, but I was too directive when it came to the how to achieve these outcomes.

This comes back to what is the role of a leader? Is it to achieve the desired outcomes as directed? Or is the role of a leader to build the capability of the team in order to achieve desired outcomes long term? Is a Leader to utilise the skills and knowledge of the team to achieve the best possible outcomes? In the end a leader does not have all the answers and I see the role of the leader to set a vision, mission and values and then facilitate the team’s skills, knowledge and experience to achieve the best possible outcome.

What I have found from my past experiences is that being a control freak can sometimes in the short term achieve good results, however in the long term it is tiring to maintain the results as a control freak. I have seen this happen many times in the past where I have driven a process or mission, just to see it fall apart when I left that organisation. I had focused on the short term results in those cases without building the long term capacity.

So if you are a control freak, join me and reform. Yes, I will slip back into bad habits in the future, but I will then pull myself up and reform once again. Instead of thinking about the how to do something, I am now focused on the vision, mission and values and communicating this to my team. Through setting the framework and then supporting the team and building the capability of the team I am getting better results long term. Yes, in the short term there are errors and suboptimal outcomes. However I have less stress and in the end there are better outcomes in the long term.

  • Are you a control freak?
  • Are you reformed?
  • What is one thing that you can do in the next week to reform?


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Muscles, Brains or Heart

bca9494278c73622d54335c4d7def42eAs a leader in any organisation you need to ask yourself if your team is giving you their muscles, their brain or their heart. In the late 1800s Frederick Taylor looked at the application of labour in production as something that had to be efficiently managed. Labour was treated like a cog in the wheel of production. This approach viewed people for the muscles, physical effort, that they bring to the organisation.

Fortunately we have moved on from Taylorism and scientific management. Or have we? I see many organisations still treating their staff in a similar, production units, sort of way. Some have expanded a little to involving their team’s use of their brains….. Their team is offered the opportunity to think and apply initiative in a limited capacity.

Imagine if you had a workforce or team that applied their heart to their role. They had passion for what they do and they care about the outcomes for the clients and the organisation. What type of organisation would that be? It would be one that is harder to control, but one that would multiple the impacts that each team member adds to the outcomes of the organisation.

With passion team members will contribute to the organisations in way’s that cannot be planned or directed. For example in recent Army Exercises I have been involved in the passion in the team was so high that they did things like extra weapons training in their own time and produced tools and materials that added value to their role. The team took the mission of the team and really contributed far beyond what was the requirement for themselves.

So how does this happen? I believe it is through setting the vision, the mission and the values of the organisation or team in the first instance. Then once there is an understanding to what is to be achieved and the manner in which the team is to operate then we build an environment where ideas are welcomed, supported and rewarded. Yes, there will be some mistakes, however these are learning points to be shared with the team.

  • In your role do you manage and control your team use of muscles and brain?
  • In your role do you support the team’s use of heart and passion?
  • In what way can you better support your team’s use of their passion?


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For us or Against Us

495f6a65c50b12d13e19ad8d040a7dabI very often hear people say “If they are not for us, they are against us”. I have never believed this and thought this to be a short sighted view of the world. There are plenty of people that are not for or against us. Some will be stakeholders with their own agenda’s and some will be members of the community.

Yesterday I heard the following quote from the Bible “For whoever is not against us is for us.” It is from Mark 9:40. I thought “Wow”, that is another spin on things. In this part of the Bible the disciples were telling off a person that was doing things in the name of Jesus, but this person was not part of their group. Jesus responded with the “For whoever is not against us is for us.”

What a paradigm shift. In the first quote “If they are not for us, they are against us” there is the assumption that people are against us….. That would make you a lot of enemies. In the second quote “For whoever is not against us is for us” makes the assumption that people are your friends. Imagine a world full of friends.

Imagine if we were open to have everyone as our friend. What a great world it would be if we assumed people were for us. Imagine the difference in our thinking and actions if we had the assumption that people are for us. I can see a world of less stress, more friends and greater collaboration.

  • Do you assume people are for you or against you?
  • What is a way things would change if you assumed people are for you?
  • What could you achieve with the assumption that people are for you?


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