A sense of humour

  • Attila Ovari having breakfast @ the coffee club TuggeranongDo you have a sense of humour?
  • How often do you smile?
  • Can you laugh at yourself?

Having a sense of humour is a fun and lightful way to live life. Being able to have a laugh makes one feel better. It can also have a positive impact on those around you. Have you ever been in a workplace where people are smiling, friendly and have a laugh? What about a workplace where people are overly serious and there is no laugher? What environment gets the best productivity?

Being serious is important. We all have things that have to be achieved. We need to be considered when it comes to what we are doing. We need to ensure that our work is done and we achieve the required outcomes. Having a sense of humour is does not prevent you being productive or purposeful.

Having a sense of humour is a way of doing things. If you trip up a little, sort it out, learn from it and have a laugh about it. If a situation is causing stress for yourself or your team, deal with it, learn from it and in most cases you will be able to look back and have a laugh. Life is too short to be overly serious all the time. Have a sense of humour, it lifts the mood and puts a simile on others around you.

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

What are you told?

Follow your Dreams MugLast year I had multiple roles with multiple supervisors during that time. I was working with and for several organisations. Throughout the year I was given advice by several of my supervisors. When I look at the advice I was given it was not all consistent. Different people gave me different, often conflicting advice.

  • What are you being told?
  • Is the advice you are receiving conflicting?
  • What advice do you take on?

For me I look at the person giving me the advice. When someone is in a senior role to me or been in the industry longer than me I look at what they have achieved and more importantly what they have become. Who are they really? Is that someone that I would like to be like? If I can answer yes to these questions then I am more likely to take on the advice from that person.

I have been told all sorts of things throughout my life. The advice I have been given has shaped who I have become. However, there is always people willing to give advice, but is it the right advice for me? I think through the advice I have been given and filter it. Filtering the advice to ensure that it is right for me.

The filtering of advice for me is through two filters. The first is around what is it that I want to achieve and be. Is this advice aligned with who I want to be and what I want to be? I then also filter the advice by who is giving me the advice. They are giving me advice through their perceptions and is that aligned with who I want to be and what I want to achieve?

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

There is no failure in trying

Anna Ovari on Mission Inflatable at Thredbo Pool Leisure CentreIn the last few days I have read, seen and experienced that there is no failure in trying. I have been reading about failure, I have seen people make mistakes and I have experience some failures myself. What I find interesting about failure is that in all the cases I have read, seen and experienced, there was truly no failure.

To the outside world it may seem like failure. The failure may even be embarrassing to oneself. However the truth is that if you have done your best, tried something new, given it a go and learnt lessons from it then it is not really a failure. Failure is not trying, giving up and doing nothing. Trying and learning lessons are all part of success.

I remember last year driving along a road here in Canberra where some roadworks had recently been completed. I was navigating and due to the road changes I guided the vehicle down a dead end street…. Oops! Talk about embarrassing…. I was the senior officer in the group and here I am leading the vehicle down the wrong road.

In the end though it was a good learning lesson. I guided the vehicle back on track in the new road system and had discovered how the new roads work. I took my lesson learnt. In less than a fortnight the new knowledge of the road system paid off as I had a function at a winery in that same area. I was able to get to the winery via the most direct route.

So next time you are faced with failure remember it is only failure if you do not learn from the experience. It is only failure if you do not use the experience for improving yourself or the situation. You are in control of what is success or failure in your life. May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

  • What is something that you failed at?
  • What lessons did you learn from that experience?
  • How did the experience guide you to success?

What is your impact?

Lake GeorgeYesterday I attended the funeral of a friend that was taken too early from this earth. There were plenty of people there, which is a true reflection on the type of person that Jamie was. He was always friendly, helpful and great to work with. At the funeral many people talked about the positive impact that Jamie had on their lives.

I think that is key….. It is not about circumstances that impact you, but instead what impact you have on others that is important. As I took the drive home, that thought keep going over in my head. It is about impact… but the impact that we have on others. It is about our legacy. May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

  • What is your impact on others?
  • What is your legacy?
  • How are you leaving the world a better place?

Remember your wins

  • 1cdf27c8f43ec300fbe181bf86937860Do you recall you last win?
  • Or is your last failure that you have in your mind?
  • Are you thinking about your success or your is it your last embarrassment?

Too many times I think about my failures, my mistakes, my embarrassments and my poor decisions. Yes, I have had many failures. However, it is funny how my failures and uncertainties are recalled far more than my successes. Especially if I leave my mind to it. That said I have also had many many successes. Some very small and some really big.

For myself, I have to remember my wins. I need to remember that I have done good and I have plenty of potential to do better. We all have had wins in our life. We all have had something go right or someone support us. We need to remember these times…. We need to remember the people that have supported us.

I am not saying that we do not deal with past failures and issues to prevent them happening again. However we also need to remember that we have had successes and wins in the past. Through remembering our past successes and wins we can ensure that we keep our failures in their proper perspective. May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

Are you an achiever?

Champage in glasses at the Hyatt Hotel in Canberra AustraliaThere are the people that come into an organisation, achieve, contribute, question and improve. Quite often these people will not stay in any role for many years. They are focused on making the organisation a better place and then when they have completed what they can do, they move to another role and start the process again.

These people are respected for their abilities, their achievements and their qualities. They tend to focus more on the outcomes and less on the internal politics of an organisation. They question things that they do not understand and are open to discussing the risks in the strategies, tactics and business practices in order to improve them.

When they are working in a confident and competent team they thrive. They value add and everyone is better for it. People will look to them for guidance, leadership and advice. They are seen as someone that can get the job done. They are achievers.

So are you an achiever?

Values Collide

  • Attila Ovari Playing Chess at the Pancake Parlour in Canberra City on Australia Day 2016Have you ever felt uncomfortable with work practices in your workplace?
  • Have you felt that you did the right thing and yet other people are being rewarded?
  • Do you feel that your work and outcomes are not valued?

I am sure we have all felt like this at some point in our lives. I know there are many times that I felt that I worked hard, got the required results for the organisation and yet I was not valued for doing so. This may be due to a difference in values between yourself and your organisation. I was listening to a podcast this week on the topic.

Mostly this is not about right and wrong in the workplace, but instead what is valued in the workplace. We all have a different set of values and this can lead to conflict or discomfort in the workplace. Depending on the strength of your conviction about some of the values, it can also lead to higher levels of personal stress.

I know in the past I was working on a project where an organisation had a very aggressive approach to marketing. The organisation was following the letter of the law and not violating any laws in its practices. However my personal beliefs and values did not align and I did not believe the organisation was following good business practice.

In the end though, I had a decision to make. Would I follow my values and leave the project or do I suppress my values and do what the organisation wanted? We all have these decisions to make in the workplace. Each time we suppress our values we chip away a little of ourselves. It is not easy when faced with these differences in values, but certainly something we need to learn to work through.

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

Sharper Focus

Attila Ovari relaxing on Australian Day 2016 in Canberra at Regatta point before the fireworksThis morning I was driving to a meeting near the city and I had another bolt of lighting. And I am not referring to the thunderstorm type, though there were plenty of those too. I am referring to a bright idea. It was about focus and what I am trying to achieve with my life, my blog and my mission.

Now the problem is not knowing what to do, but wanting to do too much. Not being focused on the one best thing. If you are like me you get lots and lots of good ideas. The problem is that lots and lots of good ideas being worked on all at once leads to nothing being completed or achieved well.

It is through focus that I achieve great things. Yes my focus can change over time, but focus on the one best thing is how I achieve in the moment. Today as I was driving along the bolt of lighting I got was that I needed to sharpen my focus. I was focussed on one thing, but I needed to focus on just one part of that one thing. Sharpening the focus.

Yes there are many things that I am working on, but I now have a deeper and sharper focus on my number one priority. My number one priority is sharper than before. It is more focused than before. I am more focused on what I can do in terms of my blog, my work and my mission. May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

  • What are you focused on?
  • Do you have a number one priority?
  • How can you sharpen your focus on this number one priority?

Wisdom and Strength

Views from Chisholm Hill of light coming through the cloudsQuite often when faced with a challenge I say a little pray to God asking for Wisdom and Strength. Wisdom to know what to do in challenging times and the strength to do what I need to do. I have come to realise that I need both wisdom and strength in my life. In particular when faced with a challenge.

Wisdom without strength is not being able to action what you know needs to be done and strength without wisdom is not necessarily doing to the right thing. Together both wisdom and strength are needed for me to get through a challenging issue. May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

 

  • What traits do you rely on when faced with a challenge?

 

 

Not as bad as first thought

  • Attila Ovari RelaxedHave you ever been had to do something that you were not looking forward to?
  • Leading up to that thing did you go over it in your head?
  • Did it seem to get worse and worse?

I have done that many times. Yesterday morning I had a dentist appointment for a small filling. Not something that I was looking forward too. It was only a small filling, but still…. The dentist asked whether I wanted a local anesthetic or not? I always have a local anesthetic and hate the feeling of the needle going in and then the numbness for the rest of the day.

Well this time I opted for no anesthetic. I figured it was only a very small filling. But instally the anticipation built… I hate pain and was dreading my decision. But anyway we started and the before I knew it it was over. Nowhere as bad as I had thought it would be. Isn’t it funny how we build things up bigger in our heads than reality?

May your passions drive you and your dreams lead you to fulfilling your life’s destiny.

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