What is in your Control?
- Are there things that occur in your life that frustrate you?
- Are these things outside of your control?
- Does this frustration impact on other areas of your life?
I remember many years ago, I was instructing on a course with the Army and there was some areas of frustration for me. These frustrations were outside of my control. It was about things that I had no control over and I was letting these frustrations impact on my performance as an instructor. I was fortunate to receive some very good advice at the time, though at the time I thought it was poor advice. One of the other instructors told me “Let it go, the sun will rise in the morning”.
As I said, I was not appreciative of the advice at the time. However as I have matured, I have taken the advice on. Basicly, when dealing with frustrations I have three key things I review about the situation:
- Is there something in the short term that I can do about it?
- Are people going to die, be maimed, or is it the end of the world?
- What can I do in the long term to make positive change in this area?
If I answer “no” to question 1 and 2, then letting it go is always better for my mental wellbeing. It will ensure that I stay in a positive head space. And yes there is, in my opinion, negative impacts from the issue, however these negative impacts are small in comparison to life itself. Over the longer term I will also put me in a better position to make positive impacts for this situation. To do this I need to maintain my positive mental headspace.
In the end this was great advice…. yes, it took me years to fully understand and yes at times I need reminding, however it has help me to not let other’s incompetence (in my opinion) or misunderstanding upset myself…..
Posted on Thursday, 19 Jun 2014, in Uncategorized and tagged Advice, Business, Entrepreneurship, Frustration, Leadership, Life, Management, Passion, Positive, Well Being. Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.