Building Self Confidence through being Uncomfortable

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela

Over the last fortnight I have participated in a number of activities that I was not fully looking forward to. The first was the adventurous training in the Blue Mountains and the second was the parade last weekend. Though I do not have anything in particular against each of these activities, they both challenged me in a different ways.

The adventurous training in the Blue Mountains challenged my fitness levels, but more importantly challenged my fear of heights. On the Friday morning as we sat at the lookout before the big abseil I wanted to do anything but think about the drop I was about to go over. Waiting can sometimes be the worst part. In addition as I am in a leadership role I have to hold it all together. However in the end it was a great experience and the views were amazing…. plus as an added bonus I feel more self confident.

The other activity that challenged me this last fortnight was a parade we did in the Army. It involved three units. I am not the best at drill….. No. that is an understatement…. I am terrible at drill. Therefore I was not looking forward to the parade. Particular as I had to do sword drill. The last time I did sword drill was over a decade ago. I have a good Recon Officer who the week prior had us practicing sword drill which definitely helped. After some further practice on the day we did the parade and it went well. Again it was a boast of self confidence to have done the parade and not found a way to get out of it.

For both of these activities I could have found a reason to get out of them. However comfortable they both were, it was far better to actually do the activities. It certainly built self-confidence in myself and also was a lot of fun. In approaching these activities with the right mindset and also with practice and preparation I am more confident to take on the next challenge.

  • What is it that your are fearful of?
  • How do you overcome this fear?
  • Do you regularly challenge yourself?

About Attila Ovari

Attila Ovari is an Entrepreneur that loves life and is passionate about adventure. Attila Ovari writes, speaks and coaches to inspire others to better themselves through following their passions and chasing their dreams. He has developed his passions of inspiration, leadership and strategy into strengths through his businesses and community pursuits.

Posted on Friday, 29 Nov 2013, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 9 Comments.

  1. Reblogged this on AVARS – Allison, Vaughn Aaron Rhys and Shaira and commented:
    Really like this post. The messages and quote really hit home with me. Take a read.

  2. Thank you for sharing. I agree with that 100%. If you don’t push the boundaries, how will you grow!

  3. Enjoyed your post!

    I think all of us has two distinct zones: comfortable and uncomfortable zone. Our willingness to act definitely varies in between these zones. However, what I call “first step”, is very crucial when it comes to uncomfortable zone. Humans are so capable that many times, most of us will find ourselves capable if we take the courage and act in the uncomfortable zone. All it takes to put the second step is to be courageous enough to put the first one.

  4. Money collection is the toughest part of my job. In the end, I just have to suck it up and push through it… The only thing worse than collecting is not getting paid! 😉

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