Do you Listen and ask Questions?

“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.”
Epictetus

Are you an extrovert or an introvert? I am an extrovert and I think that this blog article today is more for extroverts than introverts. Extroverts have a tendency to like to talk and can sometime be overbearing in a conversation. That said if you are like me then you will soon learn that it is not just annoying for others, but also you will not learn from others unless you let them talk…

Now this will not apply to most of you, however think about the quote above. Do you talk more than you listen? Or is it the other way around? When you actively listen you will learn so much… So what is active listening? Active listening is when you listen to someone with intent and a willingness to understand. So how do you do this? Here are some tips that I find useful:

  • When you ask questions like “how was your weekend?”, listen for an answer.
  • Ask open questions? (Open questions are questions where the answers is greater than yes or no)
  • Find out what is interesting to the other person?
  • Ask questions to develop a deeper understanding of their interest

The best part of active listening is that you will hear some interesting stories and learn a lot about the world that we live in. When traveling I enjoy listening to the locals tell me about their lives and their town or region. I learn more from the locals than I do from tourist books and the tourist sites.

So if you are like me and are a good story teller, remember to tone it back a little and listen to others… You may be surprised what you learn…

 

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Attila Ovari is an Entrepreneur that loves life and is passionate about adventure. Attila Ovari writes, speaks and coaches to inspire others to better themselves through following their passions and chasing their dreams. He has developed his passions of inspiration, leadership and strategy into strengths through his businesses and community pursuits.

Posted on Monday, 29 Apr 2013, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 9 Comments.

  1. You can be a storyteller AND an introvert. It just means you like to write your stories … or blog rather than meet face to face..

  2. I’m an introvert by nature, but my job as insurance agent forces me to be extroverted! It’s probably good for me, but it can be tiring on my psyche. 😉

    • Wow…. I bet you have learnt a whole range of tools and skills to work in an extroverted work environment… Is there anything that you would care to share?

      • it sounds corney, but the one thing I’ve found that helps is to smile when talking to people even if I’m nervous/unsure/shy. It really DOES help me feel more secure!

        Also, there is one attribute that really works to the advantage of an introvert – their ability to listen. I’ve found that my natural affinity for quietness sometimes makes all the difference in dealing with customers, esp. the extroverts who love to talk! 😉

      • Thank you for sharing… The ability to listen and smiling are two things that impatience extroverts could learn from. With practice I will get there…

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