Messages from a Fortune Cookie 2

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On the 4 January I wrote about my lovely wife and myself going out for dinner together in the post “Messages from a Fortune Cookie”. In the post I went through one of the messages we recieved in the fortune cookie. This post is about the other message.

“We can’t control the wind, but we have the power to adjust the sails”

It is also a great message. There is so much in life that we cannot control, yet this is not a reason to give up on the outcome. There are so many elements and factors of our life that we do not control. In a job we have a boss that can impact on our employment, Mother Nature is in control of the weather and as individuals we do not decide what happens in the stock market. The list can go on and on. We truly do not control the wind…..

So what is the good news? The good news is that we have the power to choose our response and actions. In Dr Stephen R Covey’s book the “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” Dr Covey discusses Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern. It is important that we focus on our Circle of Influence.

For example in our Circle of Concern may be the way that our boss treats us. However it may not be in our Circle of Influence. However in our Circle of influence is choosing where we work and how we respond to our boss. Same with the weather, we do not control the weather. What we do have control over is the way we dress for the weather. Likewise, though we do not control the stock market, we can control the way we invest and what risks we take with our money.

So though we do not control the wind….. We do truly have the power to adjust the sails…..

Some questions to ask yourself:
Do you have things in your life that are out of your control, however you are trying to control?
What is in your circle of influence that may help in this situation?
How are you going to adjust your sails to harness this wind?


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Attila Ovari is an Entrepreneur that loves life and is passionate about adventure. Attila Ovari writes, speaks and coaches to inspire others to better themselves through following their passions and chasing their dreams. He has developed his passions of inspiration, leadership and strategy into strengths through his businesses and community pursuits.

Posted on Saturday, 19 Jan 2013, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 30 Comments.

  1. Thank you for sharing your fortune and for the inspiring post 🙂

  2. Great ideas. Thanks! I’m in my first management position at work. The problem is I’m a perfectionist and a micro-manager. Not good for those working for me! I’m learning how to disengage at let others do things, choosing not to influence when I could. One day at a time I’m getting better.

    • Thank you for sharing….. Did you come from a technical background? It can be hard when starting out in management. At least you know the areas that need work and are working towards it…… Keep up the great work and I look forward to hearing about your successes.

      • No! I came from academia. We either have absolute authority when we’re with students or we work on our own with no authority. Guiding people through a process in which we have a vested interest is less common in my field of academia. So I’m learning management from scratch, it seems.

      • Wow…. You have certainty made some changes in your life… All the best with your new adventure

  3. We can only control our reaction. But that is very tricky, isn’t it? It’s a struggle as you say!

  4. My whole life is now out of my control! With the nerve damage, asthma, seizures and depression its hard to plan anything. I am learning to roll with the flow one day at a time but its hard for a type A personality with ocd lol

    • Sounds like there is a lot going on in your life….. Remember that the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time…. Just take it one day at a time…

      • funny you used that term eating the Elephant i have an old blog about that LOl went to a sales meeting when I worked and that was the topic how to eat an elephant.. that’s how i live by now!! its hard though when im so use to scheduling almost every minute lol. I just have to stay positive and say at least I am able to enjoy one day at a time and make the most of it.

      • Very true words…. Hang in there

  5. Great points Attila, Stephen Covey was a very wise man and he left us with so many valuable tools to learn from. Enjoy your weekend!

  6. Reblogged this on She's Losing It! and commented:
    I like this message

  7. Adding my favorite: Ocean waves may not be controlled, but you can learn how to surf.

  8. Great post, when you think about it we can influence a lot more than we think in our lives, we just have to find the right way of going about it. And there is no point worrying about the things that are truly out of our control.

  9. I had a reader ask me these questions as well, which also prompted a blog post on my part. We definitely cannot control others’ actions but we can control how we react to their actions. In a work situation, this is so important. Things will go wrong, at times. But if you understand the difference between your two circles, you will also understand that most of your focus should be on self discipline in terms of how you manage your own behaviors and emotions when things do not go your way. Covey’s books are all excellent! Every leader should read them.

  10. ah yes…..and the trick is figuring out that which one cannot control. something I struggle with for sure! thanks for the reminder and the inspiration once again.

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